Don't set standards "as you go." Emotions can be tricky. You must make wise choices before the "flutters" and "heartthrobs" become so loud you cannot hear yourself think. Write them down and read them often! Commit them to God regularly in prayer.
...Here are some examples of "dating standards" that many godly woman have made. They will help you resist the pressure to "open the gift" too early....
I will date only growing Christian men. (You will most likely marry a man you date. This is important!!)
I will concentrate on the friendship -- not romance. (Don't be tricked!)
I will not spend time with him at home when we are alone.
I will not give kisses and hugs freely.
I will not lie down beside a man.
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Women are easily turned on by words....Another way to protect your purity is to stand on guard when you hear "sweet talk."...
...words have trapped many ladies -- beware! When you catch yourself rationalizing what you are doing and assuring yourself you are in control, make a second check. You'll be glad you did.
Don't set standards "as you go."
Drawing firm, definitive lines or boundaries are essential if you want your dating life to honor God. Everyones boundaries are different. Everyones temptations are different. Every couple is different. Knowing what your limitations are, when enough is enough, or too much is too much, is something you need to figure out for yourself.
It's not enough to push your tempations to the very edge. Once you tiptoe up to that line it's too easy to step over it. You need to set these boundaries a step ahead of the step that will push you over. It's too easy to cross that line. It's too easy to get caught up in a moment. It's too easy to justify your actions in a split second. Setting these boundaries...and sticking to them...will help you to honor God in your relationships.
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