"Here comes the bride all dressed in...chains!' Hey, wasn't that supposed to be "all dressed in white"? The last word in the chorus was changed to "chains," not because the bride is marrying a member of a motorcycle gang, but because she made the unwise choice of marrying an unbeliever. The chains symbolize what she has to look forward to as a believer married to an unbeliever. The Word of God speaks clearly about a partnership with an unbeliever....
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When a single woman experiences a prolonged period of datelessness, loneliness tempts her to compromise her conviction concerning dating a growing Christian. her dateless state may pressure her to surrender to the temptation of dating an unbeliever. She may justify such a date in the guise of being a witness for Jesus. Many single women have been trapped emotionally with an unbeliever when it all began with "missionary dating." Ponder this: Every unbelieving marriage partner arrived as an unbeliever on the first date. As trite as it may seem, every date is a potential mate. Avoid dating an unbeliever.
...You must set a higher standard an resist dating a guy who is not growing in his intimacy with Christ.
Every unbelieving marriage partner arrived as an unbeliever on the first date.
As a follower of Christ, your main focus is God. Or at least it should be. Your goal in life is to grow closer to God, strengthen your faith, shine His light unto others, share the word of God, and, ultimately, spend eternity with our Savior.
It is extremely difficult to maintain a healthy, happy relationship when you have opposite goals. If you are both striving for the same thing, you will be working together to attain that goal. If you're focuses are not in sync, you will both me moving towards your individual goals, and, inevitably, away from eachother.
Missionary dating will lead you nowhere. Believe me, I know. You will, at some point - hopefully sooner rather than later - find yourselves at opposite ends of the spectrum. You can read more of my past experience here.
Why not make your love life that much easier by dating someone who shares your life goals? You strive to be a godly woman, then it only seems right that you should date a godly man. If this man ends up being your husband, and ultimately the father of your children, wouldn't you want someone who shares your life views and convictions?
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