When you see a woman going after the guys, you probably don't immediately say, "Yes, I see that she really is insecure!" Insecurity dwells in the heart. What you see outwardly is a woman's age-old ability to manipulate and maneuver. When a woman manipulates a situation, she feels personal satisfaction because she believes she's in control.
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Manipulation and maneuvering can also take the form of serving as a "surrogate (substitute) helpmeet." Many women want to marry as badly as they want to go to Heaven. They long to care for a man, so they run around trying to find at least a "generic" version of the real thing. These precious (but deceived) women constantly look for a man with a need and pounce on that need in hopes of eventually winning the affection of man. Any male in need irresistibly attracts them.
...Women may find more pleasure doing for a man than a woman because the potential "payoff" seems more valuable. She envisions surrendering her "surrogate" apron for an engagement ring....
...Allow God to use you to minister to brothers and sisters equally with no ulterior motives.
When a woman manipulates a situation, she feels personal satisfaction because she believes she is in control.
Never do for a man what you wouldn't do for a woman. Never do for a man what you wouldn't do for yourself. Any 'self-less' act do you for someone else should be out of the kindness of your heart -- not for what you may or may not get in return. People will see right through you if you only do things when it benefits you.
Would you want a man who only did things for you when if benefited him? Or would you rather be with someone who did things for you because he cared for you and wanted to make you happy? I know I'd opt for the former. I don't even like accepting favors from someone who's only looking out for themselves. I feel as though they expect too much. We are not owed anything. We owe everything to God...the least we can do is give to his children without expecting anything in return.
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